A Piece of Wisdom for Anyone in their 20's

I think anyone in their 20s is going through a special change of mind and all the input we’re consuming from all sorts of sources, be it YouTube, Instagram, and other platforms, can help us in our pursuits, but unfortunately, it also can get us confused so easily.

I have had this experience and still do. Especially in your 20’s there are so many uncertainties about your future and where you will end up.

That can put so much pressure on yourself and sometimes it’s even hard to enjoy the small things in life.

Scrolling through your For You page and seeing all these people being Millionaires in their 20s or other successful people telling you that you need to get off your ass and chase your wildest dreams.

But what if you just don’t know anything? What if you don’t know where you want to go and what you want to do later on?

That will set you in a state where you judge yourself in whatever you do. Sitting on the couch and relaxing for a moment is unacceptable because you should work on something.

Don’t get me wrong, it is good advice in some way, but only to a certain extent. It’s even better advice when you know exactly where to head to.

But I don’t think rushing and forcing yourself to find something is the way, and I guess sometimes it’s about doing the things that are right for you, such as constantly learning new things and exposing yourself to the unknown.

Trying to do that in a manner that takes away the stress and pressure is the right way.

And yes, like everything, it takes some time to understand that, but this is what I mean by constantly growing.

Learning a few lessons each day and at some point, there comes a big one around that perfectly suits you.

I guess that is such a common struggle among young people.

Advice from Naval Ravikant

I just came across a very interesting speech by Naval Ravikant in Tim Feriss’s Book — Tribe of Mentors.

Question: How has a failure set you up for success?

I’m lucky that I didn’t get everything in life or I’d be happy with the first thing that I got.

My first job, my hometown, my friends…

Losing faith in my bosses made me independent

Being poor when young led to money when old

Falling sick made me focus on my health

Inside suffering is the seed of change

This was one of these Aha moments.

Read it again and let it sink in for a moment.

If you’d be happy with everything you had in your early life, why would you continue to look for something else?

I know people that decided to become “X” or get this particular job once they graduate from high school/college and once they reach that, they are satisfied and don’t look further.

A lot of people stay there because that’s what they think they wanted and once satisfaction kicks in, there is no need to leave their comfort zone.

It’s a static decision. But constantly worrying and not knowing where to go what you want to become etc. doesn’t have to be bad. It means you’re dynamic. You’re not sure where to go or what do think, and that constantly changes your perspective. It also means that you’re up to an adventure of life experiences and lessons.

Another thing that I’ve learned from the book I mentioned earlier, is that we always want everything to happen fast.

But…. we are only in our 20’s.

We do have so much time to figure things out and thinking that everything will be perfect right from the start is absurd.

And thank god it’s that way, because where would that lead you to? Where would the hunger for becoming a better version of yourself go?

All this worrying and learning will eventually merge and form a path.

I know that many young adults, including me, are struggling out there to find their purpose.

But we have time, we need the experience to make further and smarter decisions.

We are sort of building a huge wall and every decision, lesson, and experience is from another brick.

And one more thing, it is incredible how the right input from the right individuals at the right time can alter your perspective on life.

They are enlightenments or stepping stones, opening up another door for you, one that you haven’t discovered yet.

Read and/or listen to books.

I am always amazed at what I can find there.